In what ways did you, your parents, and other family members adapt to the resulting family imbalance, thereby re-establishing equilibrium in the family?

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Consider an example of disequilibrium that occurred in your family and was brought about by a normative or non-normative event. In what ways did you, your parents, and other family members adapt to the resulting family imbalance, thereby re-establishing equilibrium in the family?

Disequilibrium is a state in which things are not stable or certain, but are likely to change suddenly. There may be a period of disequilibrium as family members adjust to the new baby.

The arrival of child causes different reactions from the family members. In a family of three, father, mother and their only child either a boy or a girl, when the parent decide it’s time to add another child this is can either excite the child or upset them. When the baby is not yet born most children are happy but the main reaction is seen as the baby is born and attention shifts.

Majority of firstborn children have experienced the arrival of a newborn sibling at least once during their childhoods. Psychoanalytic theorists such as Freud have emphasized the stressful nature of this transition to the firstborn children; it can be the most traumatic experiences of early childhood.

When anew born has arrived, parental attention that was once given to the first born will now be shared. This emotional upset and disruptive behavior of firstborn child upon receiving a sibling is seen as sibling jealousy. When we look at the distress of firstborns during this time with the normative; we cannot refer this as normal because the elder child is upset at the new born baby This does not affect the child only the mother is also affected to some extent, she shows concern over the imminent disruption, experience guilt and sadness over the loss of their relationship with the firstborn, and may question their ability to cope with the older child’s misbehaviors to the baby. Adding the stress of a newborn sibling and the changes that may accompany this transition; moving to a new home, discontinuation of day care, this may be so disruptive as to interfere with young children’s mastery of self-care and self-regulation.

The birth of a second child is a time of transition for firstborn children and their parents. This transition is a normative transition because it occurs in most of the families, this is an anticipate occurrence in the family, it is short term as it occurs with the birth of a child. This is in contrast to non-normative transitions which are often referred to as a set of unpredictable events that are fairly traumatic example serious accidents or injuries. Being a first born in my family, the thought that I was going to have a sister was really exciting in the beginning but when I begun to figure out that we were going to share everything this really hit he hard ,when she was born my parents attention was now all on my small sister, in the first month mum and dad did not even read my favorite bed time story because the baby need their extra attention. At some point I thought now my parent did not love me, I was seven years old back then. It was hard but my parents realized that I was still their child and things changed.

Mum and dad let me help pick out items for the new baby’s room. Because me and my sister we were going to share the room. Mum and dad had special time just for me; they started reading bedtime stories for me like before. Sometime they read to both me and my small sister. As the elder child dad said I was now responsible for sister, I was to take care of her. This sudden changes from my parent brought things back to normal and even better as now I had a small sister.

As you begin the study of the ways in which to raise children, take a moment to consider your own view regarding the essential nature of the child. That is, do you believe that all children are inherently sinful and willful or do you believe that children are basically good and that under optimal conditions, their innate talents will emerge? Explain how and why you view children’s nature in a particular way

Raising children is a big task for parents, when children grow up they pass through different stages that make them do various activities that can either be good or bad .to most parent this is the hardest task because they have to guide them to do good activities, there are some of the children who might show the bad side only in that they don’t have no good part of their life. Children can be both sinful and good at the same time.

Why some children show the bad side only?

There is no such thing as a bad child but there is bad parenting. Studies have shown us that offspring of the violent and abusive parents often turn out to be highly troubled adults themselves. But what if a child is born into a loving, caring home and turns out to be trouble? Bad behavior in children always has an explanation. It is right to say, that when children do bad things like talking back, and breaking rules this completely normal .we should not think of this as bad behavior, it is just a face of passage children are going through .some of this behavior manifest in children because of the following reasons;

Curiosity

Kids this age are naturally curious about the world around them, which can often translate into bad behavior. An adult might interpret these actions as naughty, but your child is in the experiment stage of their life.

Miscommunication

 Children act out sometimes, this happens because they cannot communicate. It’s much easier for them to communicate with bad behavior, like when your two-year-old kicks over a flowerpot than to say, “I’m cranky because my nap was too short” or when they snatch there playmate toy instead of say6ing they don’t want the play time to end

Immaturity

Until they get to kindergarten, kids pretty much cannot controlling their impulses and master the concepts of right and wrong. Because they are constantly running up against a wall of limitations and are experiencing so much change that their brains cannot comprehend at once .Ever say to your kid, “Don’t throw that!” and they do it anyway? Research suggests that the brain regions involved in self-control are immature at birth and don’t fully mature until the end of adolescence, which explains why developing self-control is a “long, slow process.

As we sit and analyze there is no bad kid, the behavior of children depends mostly with how the parent bring them up. It’s the duty of the parents to guide their children and mould them into what they want them to be, sometimes the social circle or community around influences how children behave. If ht social environment is violent best believe that the children will be violent.

No matter what children do there is good in them it only need the rite stimuli in order for them to finally show up. For me all children are good there are no bad children but there is only bad parenting. If you want a good hard working and respectful child then you have to exercise good parenting skills.

 

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